(This post is for my children and the younger generation of Sevidal’s and Gagni’s. It is for my friends and followers. It is specially dedicated to my parents, my uncles and aunts, my older cousins and my older relatives)
As a disclaimer, this is only my viewpoint. It is personal and I know some might disagree with me but this is what I think and how I feel about it based on my experiences and readings.
Colossians 3:20 (NIV) says, “Children, obey your parents in everything, for this pleases the Lord”.
This is one of the commands of the Lord. The virtue of obedience leads us to a path to righteousness. Being obedient to our parents shows this and lead to it. Another virtue related to it, is our ‘Respect of Elders”.
Colossians 3:20 is unequivocal, it says ‘everything’. The nature of submissiveness is there. No ifs or buts. It is clear and unconditional. Jesus Christ was submissive to his human parents as well as his Heavenly Father.
I am proud to say that I grew up in a family that gives importance to parental authority. I grew up in a family where the authority of elders is supreme. I always yield to my parents and elders. I act in submission to them. I obey them, even if i don’t like it or it’s too hard for me. I may complain, silently, but I will not defy them. I will not show them contempt nor condemn them because I was asked to do something. I do this because I believe in their authority. That they have more wisdom than me.
I’ve seen this in practice. In the burial of my grandmother (mother side), I asked something about the burial, and my mother replied, “You’re Uncle Fering will make that decision”. My uncle Fering is the oldest among my mother’s siblings. She’s effectively yielding to his oldest brother. The decision is to be made by my Uncle Fering. This is the same with my family on my father side. My Tito Lindy has the final decision on family matters as he is the oldest. I will yield to my Kuya Alexis, my oldest brother. I will yield to Ate Helen and Kuya Mitch because they are my oldest cousins. I will yield to you if you are my older cousin or relative. This is just how I was brought up. And I hope the younger generation will embrace this and bring it to heart.
My children are already adults. They already have their own families. They decide for their families. I am not allowed to meddle, that I know . But I retain authority over them being their parent. Respect, to authority, still has to be maintained. Showing your disgust, anger, towards your parents is disrespectful. Telling them what to do is insubordination. If they decide to follow your lead in something, that’s because they gave you authority at that instance. Its not that they have surrendered their authority.
According to Romans 3:20 and 2 Timothy 3:2, disobedience to parents is sinful. Obeying your parents is to honor them. Honoring your parents is obeying the Lord and it pleases Him.
Thanks to all for reading.